Call the patterns and habits of thought that stabilize into a self-sustaining “I” a dance.
Call thinking a dance of symbols, and the thinking of a particular person their particular way of dancing.
Accept, for the sake of the thought experiment, the premise that we each learn, to greater or lesser degrees of exactitude, the dances of those people who mean something to us.
Imagine that each dance produces a kind of light, a certain color of light, so that each person is a kind of sun, giving off their particular glow.
When they die, the main hub of the glow stops emitting light; there is no more thinking there.
But all the people who have learned that person’s particular dance still give off a weak copy of that light, the corona around the eclipse.
One of my favorite parts of Hofstadter’s book is his proposal for the purpose of a funeral or memorial: A light’s principal source has gone out. So all those most likely to house copies of that light in themselves gather. They collect their memories and by doing so, strengthen the light of that remaining coronal glow.
And something of the person who is gone survives, until all those other people are gone too.
The afterglow as consolation.
Say the task of memorial is to gather the people who carry the strongest traces of that person, and to consolidate the pattern into something that can be carried forward. This gathering and consolidation understood as collectively choreographing a memorial dance.
So:
Write a choreographic notation, conceived as a vehicle for the dancer to embody the traces of another. Embodying who they are or were, or embodying what they left in memory.
Take “choreographic notation” into as much or little detail as you want.
Here are a few ideas:
Describe a gesture, or a series of gestures. (The gestures might be symbolic: if someone was habitually welcoming, maybe the gesture is turning hands open and out. The gestures might be habitual: a way of twisting hair while thinking. The gestures might just have a tone with no apparent translation: little wiggle of the fingers, draw a circle in the air.)
Think about their spine.
Think about their speeds, their rhythms.
Think about their favorite song.
Think about verbs that hold their energy or habits. (To lean, to follow, to scatter, to glow, the wiggle, to pause and soften, to hide, to show up, to push back. And there’s always the option to invent compound verbs (whether compounded of two verbs or of a verb plus another part of speech): the slivernick, the silvernick, the swivelpoints, the flashgrab, the flowpool.)
The dance might have no interpretive connection at all to the person whatsoever, might just be any set of dance moves designated as an occasion reserved to remember and to imagine that person near.
Or maybe it’s a duet, a partner dance; you write out instructions for a little ballroom dance and conjure the presence of that person as your invisible partner, scooped into your open, curving arm.
But however you do it, take some delight in the pattern of your invented dance.
The dance you notate today is a pattern to hold a pattern.
As a way I hold you near, you who I miss.
Turn on the light that beams your color.